This is an emergency post. A post that was not planned but that I could not avoid.
As you all know Friday is carnival. Surely these days many of you go from store to store, looking at blogs, with the needle in hand and having a lot of ideas for the costume of your children.
For us it is a special year, the first that M disguises himself. We have no idea what you fancy or want to wear. I have been doing an 'analysis' of websites, forums, DIY's, blogs, but we did not find anything that you like, it is easy and comfortable. To get a little deeper into the subject this afternoon, Mr. Father and I, we decided to go shopping in search of and capture a costume or more ideas.
So far everything normal.
In our town at 4pm most of the shops are closed so we decided to go to one of those 'chains' where you can find everything to organize children's or theme parties. After doing the typical grace with wigs, glasses and hats, we followed the directions that led us to the back of the store, where we found costumes for adults and children (including babies).
So far all innocent and, at times, fun. But things got complicated when we went to the women's costume area.
The first thing we wanted to check is if we had not accidentally sneaked in, through some kind of back door, in an adult store (it doesn't need to give more clues, right?) But when we saw the balloons from Frozen, Olaf and Mickey Mouse behind us, we realized that no, we were still in the chosen store.
To give you an idea I have taken photos of the costumes we have seen. Notice that it has very strong content.
Since when do giraffes wear miniskirts, heels and pose with a 'broken waist'? Since when do ladybugs wear vertigo necklines? Will it be comfortable to rob a bank in a strapless dress and midi stockings? Wow! It must be for this winter so spring that we have. Perhaps the costume makers have wanted to make them a little cooler so that we don't get too hot.
You can ask yourself these questions and many more, but the one that is most often repeated to me is: What do you intend to teach to the boys and girls who enter these places?
You will think 'well don't be so exaggerated, it was only a store. Don't go back in and voila! ' Well, no. We have been horrified in search of an even more childish store to see if we could get a more 'childish' atmosphere, something that would help us believe in the carnival again. We found it. We go in and see toys from 'Liliputiens' (if you don't know them they are beautiful), 'playmobil', wooden toys, 'Pepa Piga', 'Caillou', etc. We approach the costume area and, among the children, we find this:
For real? Is it necessary? This worries me. M is almost 2 years old and does not find out many things, but someday she will be 5 and she will ask me (in the best case). By then I would like there to be no shelves with products like this. I don't want to have to explain to her that the police don't wear tube dresses, that the nuns don't wear miniskirts, that giraffes don't wear schoolgirl outfits and that ladybugs don't paint their lips with passion red. I'm concerned that he learns the ‘Dad goes to the police and mom to the sexy police. Dad goes to the priest and mom to a sexy nun. ' I'm concerned that an 11-year-old girl thinks'you show your leg what matters. ' I am concerned that children see this and believe that a woman is nothing but a hint of hint of meat that always goes in a miniskirt. I am concerned that there are many people fighting for sexism, gender violence and harassment to disappear and these things are not nipped in the bud. And you will see that I am not exaggerating in what I say when you see the next photo.
This photo horrifies me and makes me think that hopefully no girl worries about being beautiful for carnivals. Hopefully your biggest concern is having fun and playing at being the character you decide to be.
Edited February 2, 2017
And today, a year later I find this photo of someone like me who has gone to another of these stores and continue with the same policy. Until when?
Carnival is not a beauty pageant for children. Do not you think?